Finding Your Way Home: How Taking Action Creates New Possibilities

As mothers in our 40s, we often find ourselves at a crossroads. Our children are growing up, our relationships may have shifted, and we might be yearning for a change. For many women, this desire for change can manifest in wanting a new home - a space that truly feels like our own.

This was the case for Sarah, a mother and teacher in her 40s who found herself longing for a new living situation. Through her coaching session, we can glean valuable insights about how to approach significant life changes, particularly when it comes to creating a new home environment.

Big changes start with small shifts in thinking. What possibilities could open up for you with a new perspective?

The Power of Intentional Thinking

One of the key takeaways from Sarah's session is the importance of intentional thinking. Our thoughts create our feelings, which in turn drive our actions and ultimately produce our results. When Sarah initially focused on the thought "I live in a place that looks so awful," she felt stressed out and stuck. This led to actions that perpetuated her current living situation.

However, when she shifted her thinking to "I have places to go," it created a feeling of positivity. This simple change in perspective opened up new possibilities and energised her to take action towards her goal.

By becoming aware of our thoughts and consciously choosing more empowering ones, we can create the emotional fuel needed to drive significant life changes.

Taking Action: The Bridge to New Results

Perhaps the most crucial lesson from Sarah's session is the importance of taking action. It's easy to get caught in a cycle of wishful thinking or feeling overwhelmed by the enormity of a desired change. However, it's only through concrete actions that we can bridge the gap between our current reality and our desired outcomes.

For Sarah, some of the suggested actions included:

1. Decluttering and getting rid of old items

2. Creating a budget

3. Signing up with estate agents

4. Viewing properties

5. Telling friends and family about her housing search

6. Setting a timeline for her move

These actions, while seemingly small, are powerful steps towards manifesting her desire for a new home. They signal to both herself and the world around her that she's serious about making a change.

Taking action—no matter how small—signals to yourself and the universe that you’re ready for change.

Overcoming Obstacles: Internal and External

Sarah's session also highlighted some common obstacles we might face when pursuing significant life changes:

1. Fear of the unknown: Sarah expressed concern about financial feasibility and the impact on her children.

2. Negative self-talk: She initially focused on the problems with her current living situation rather than the possibilities of a new one.

3. Others' opinions: Sarah worried about her mother's reaction to her decision.

These obstacles are familiar to many of us. We might worry about financial stability, the impact on our children, or the opinions of family and friends. However, the coaching session demonstrated how to address these concerns constructively:

1. Break down the goal into manageable steps

2. Focus on thoughts that create positive, action-driving emotions

3. Prepare for difficult conversations with loved ones

4. Seek support from friends and community

Remember, obstacles don't mean stop. They can be opportunities for growth, self-reflection, and problem-solving.

The Ripple Effect of Personal Growth

An interesting aspect of Sarah's journey is how her pursuit of a new home began to positively impact other areas of her life. As she focused on this goal and shifted her thinking, she noticed improvements in:

1. Her parenting: She became more present and engaged with her children.

2. Self-care: She prioritised her needs more, including rest and personal hygiene.

3. Work-life balance: She started leaving work on time.

4. Overall outlook: She felt more positive and energised.

When we take steps towards personal growth in one area, it often has a ripple effect on our entire life. We might believe that it's "too late" to make significant changes or that we need to prioritise everyone else's needs before our own. However, Sarah's experience shows that by pursuing our own goals, we can become new versions of ourselves in all areas of life.

Embracing New Beginnings

As we navigate our 40s, it's natural to feel a pull towards new beginnings. Whether it's a new home, a career change, or a shift in relationships, this decade can be a powerful time of reinvention and growth. Sarah's journey towards finding a new home is a metaphor for the broader journey many of us are on - seeking a life that feels more aligned with who we've become.

Here are some key takeaways for embracing new beginnings:

1. Be aware of your thoughts: Notice which thoughts are holding you back and which are propelling you forward.

2. Focus on feelings that drive action: Cultivate thoughts that create feelings of hope, excitement, and determination.

3. Take consistent action: Break your goal down into small, manageable steps and commit to regular action.

4. Seek support: Whether it's through coaching, friends, or community groups, don't be afraid to ask for help and support.

5. Prepare for obstacles: Anticipate challenges and plan how you'll address them.

6. Celebrate small wins: Acknowledge every step forward, no matter how small.

7. Stay open to possibilities: Sometimes our path to change looks different than we initially imagined. Stay open to unexpected opportunities.

The journey to a new home—or any life change—begins with a single step. What’s yours?

Creating a New Home Within Yourself

While Sarah's goal was to find a new physical home, her journey highlights a deeper truth: the most important home we can create is within ourselves. As we take action towards our goals, we're not just changing our external circumstances - we're also creating a new internal landscape.

This internal 'home' is built on self-trust, (read more about that here in ‘How to Build Unbreakable Self Trust’) resilience, and a deep understanding of our own needs and desires. It's a place where we take risks, pursue our dreams, and stand up for what we believe in. By taking action towards external goals, we're simultaneously strengthening this internal foundation.

For mothers in our 40s, this internal home becomes a wellspring of strength and wisdom that we can draw from in all areas of our lives. It allows us to show up more fully for our children, our partners, our work, and most importantly, for ourselves.

Conclusion: Your Journey Begins Now

Whether you're seeking a new physical home like Sarah, or pursuing any other significant life change, remember that your journey begins with a single step. It starts with allowing yourself to want more, to dream bigger, and to believe in the possibility of change.

Your 40s are not a time to settle or to put your dreams on hold. They're a time to leverage all the wisdom and experience you've gained and channel it into creating a life that truly resonates with who you are now.

So, what's the new 'home' you want to create for yourself? What's the change you've been yearning for? Remember, it all begins with a thought, gains momentum with a feeling, and comes to life through action. Your new beginning is waiting. All you need to do is take that first step.