Go to battle with a dragon (your mind) and do the thing you want, that scares you to bits and you make yourself incredibly vulnerable on purpose. This IS the key to growth. I wish I could tell you that in order to grow you just had to go shopping to buy a bunch of stuff, or could eat something. Instead what I’m teaching you is that showing up to your dreams with courage when we feel scared is how we grow.

Imagine this; your best friend comes to you in a crisis. They’re feeling sad, hurt, angry, upset. What’s the first thing you do? Perhaps you put your arm around them (pandemic notwithstanding) and give them a hug, tell them you love them and that everything is going to be okay.

Where do you want to be in your life this time next year? This is not just a question of geography (although it could be!) This time next year do you want to be in a relationship, have created a certain level of income, have reached a goal weight, have run a marathon? Do you know exactly what you want? This is the essential first step of setting an intentional goal; simply getting clear on what you want and when you want to achieve it by. We call this a measurable result. When we set goals this way it takes it out of the realm of an unattainable fantasy and brings it into the realm of possibility.

"To begin with the end in mind means to start with a clear understanding of your destination" which is all very well if you know a few things first; where you are now, where you want to go and why you want to go there.

In this blog I give you five things to do when an emotional meltdown has you in its grip. When you’re in the pits your thoughts will be centred around how rubbish life is and all that is bad and terrible. The related feelings will be despair, dread, terror, panic. Where you want to be is happy, bubbly, joyful, yay! And so you think happy thoughts. Isn’t that what we’ve been taught right? Think happy thoughts and everything will be fine. Except your brain (who thinks it’s in charge and is actually currently in charge) doesn’t believe the happy thoughts because the brain is so good at proving you wrong. 

As a relationship coach my clients come to me to help them solve the problems they’re facing in their relationships. They tell me that they love their partner but it feels so terrible because of all the things that the partner has done wrong. I always tell them that what they’re feeling is not love. Love never feels terrible. Love only ever feels like love.

How many of us have a shared goal with our partners to be happy, only to be arguing with them about the best way to achieve this? How often do we find ourselves wanting to be right and by doing so delaying the process of achieving the goal often to end up walking away and blaming the other person? 

A boundary is for you and the best way to practice self-care